I normally don’t share other people’s material, but I saw this during the week and God put it on my heart to share it with you. As a Dad and husband, this message by John Piper is a gentle reminder of where I need to be as a man – strong for my family. Without strong fathers and husbands, our country will crumble. We need real men to set up to the plate and defend the family institution. Strong families, strong values, strong finances and we can change the world! Please enjoy:
“Four Areas in Which the Husband Should Lead”
I’ll focus on four things in which the husband should take the lead.
1. His Personal Relationship with God
The first is the pursuit of his own personal relation with God. No man will be a spiritual leader in his home if he is not going deep with God in his own private life.
2. Shaping the Family’s Moral and Spiritual Vision
The second area in which the husband should take the lead is in shaping the moral and spiritual vision of the family. A leader is someone who takes the time and initiative to think about priorities and goals. You can’t lead anyone anywhere until you have thought about where you want to go.
3. Gathering the Family for Prayer, Scripture, Worship
The third act of leadership comes out of the second. You might say it is a specific part of it. As the head the husband should take the lead in gathering the family for prayer and Scripture reading and worship. When a husband fails here and the wife has to constantly remind him or call the kids by herself, the soul of the marriage is in jeopardy.
There is one last dimension of leadership I want to charge you men with. You should take the lead in reconciliation. I do not mean that wives should never say they are sorry. But in the relation between Christ and his church, who took the initiative to make all things new? Who left the comfort and security of his throne of justice to put mercy to work at Calvary? Who
came back to Peter first after three denials? Who has returned to you again and again forgiving you and offering his fellowship afresh? So husbands, your headship means: Go ahead. Take the lead.
By John Piper. ©Desiring God. Website:desiringGod.org